What Popular Notion Do You Think The World Has Most Wrong?
I’ve thought a lot about this, and I think what the world has most wrong is discipline. I do know that other places in the world discipline their kids better than they do in North America. However, what I’m seeing a lot of these days are very self-entitled children who think that the world owes them something. People now have better incomes and can provide more for their children, which is fine, not my concern, I would do anything for my kids. But I believe in providing them with independence and a home where they can safely learn how to live in the real world.
Children who aren’t disciplined properly have behavioural issues, they are unable to socialise with the other children, they aren’t able to self-regulate themselves and they are unable to be compassionate to others, when they aren’t told no, and they are getting away with murder, then they grow up to be kids, teens and young adults that think that the world revolves around them.
Kids need rules, they need boundaries, and they need to be told no. I don’t mean that we need to beat our children, but I do believe in spanking, I believe that spanking should only be for kids 5 and under. By 5 they should already know most things, and they are also old enough to be told what they have done wrong. Also, I believe that the spanking shouldn’t be there to hurt them, it should be to enforce your point and only used as a last resort. For example, if your two year old comes running into your kitchen while you are cooking and they reach up to put their little fingers on one of the hot burners, I would smack their fingers. I want them to know that if they touch it, it will be hot and it will hurt. I would also reinforce that it is hot by saying it is hot, showing them it is hot (safely showing them), and telling them that they can’t touch the stove. Another example, when my daughter was about 3, I started with counting, 1, 2, 3, I didn’t use a 2 and a half or a 2 and 3 quarters, I told her that if I got to 3 she would get a spank. I only ever got to 3 that one time and she did get a spank. The spank wasn’t to hurt her, it was to hurt her feelings make her understand that I asked her to stop and she needed to listen. From that day on, if needed I would say 1 and she would normally stop. But she knew there would be a consequence. Most parents threaten with 1, 2, 3 but nothing comes of it and there isn’t a lesson learned.
Ok, so I’m getting a little off track, I think that we as a society have spoiled our children rotten, I see many whiny children that turned into self-centred pre-teens who have these helicopter parents that make sure their kids never fall, get hurt, are told no, or have a bruised ego. Their self-esteem is to be bronzed with their baby shoes, and these are the kids that are going to be running our world.
We need to encourage our kids, teach them how to fly, be independent, we need to show them respect so that they learn how to offer respect, children learn what they live, and I’m not about to tell you I am the world’s best parent, because I’m not, I have my flaws, but I will not live in the same house with a child that whines when they want something, cries when they don’t get it, a child that continuously pushes my buttons and doesn’t understand the word no, a child that has no respect for himself, his family or anyone else. I want to enable my children so that they are valuable to society, teach them they need to earn things, and show them that losing is ok, and that we need to try and keep trying sometimes to be great at whatever it is we want to be great at.