Well, I Did It…And I Didn’t Do It…

Hi Folks,

I completed the 30 day blog challenge and only messed up a little towards the end, I do hope that you enjoyed, that was a lot of sharing.  Yay!

So my life these days, well, just ok.  I fell off track with food last Thursday at a B2B Expo (Trade Show) in Oakville, they had free booze and people wandering around with food, so I helped myself, only 2 small beers over the course of a 7 hour period, and lots of hors d’ouvres.  Then there was Friday night, that was one of my best friends birthday’s it was dinner out with drinks, I had  good meal, I had the salmon and didn’t eat the potatoes, and I drank a lot, then we came back to the house, and continued to drink some more.

Then the rest of the weekend was filled with bad food, bacon and eggs, a bag of cheese popcorn, mint chocolate girl guide cookies,  candy bars from Halloween that I hadn’t cheated on before, you name it I had it…Pizza, Mr. Sub, and Tim Horton’s in one weekend…Yup…I suck.

The rest of my week hasn’t been great, I haven’t weighed myself because the last time I did I was up 2 pounds, so only a 9 pound loss, and I am sure I’m up even more now.  It’s also that time of the month for me, so that’s not going to help.

When I fall off the wagon, I fall hard.  It has always been that way, even though I was doing so well, and without, processed food, any grains and sugar, I didn’t crave anything, but it is so hard to get back to that again.

This weekend won’t help either, it is our annual tree decorating weekend and cookie swap.  So you guessed it, there will be cookies, and then us ladies all get together and do more drinking and eating while we catch up.  It is a good night, but this will lead to another week of me being off the rails, and by now, you know me, go big or go home, when I fall, I fall HARD.

Part of me says fuck it…we can start again in January, but the flip side of me says, ok, so you are messing up, it is baby steps and you gotta do this one day at a time, and today is a good day to start again.  I have continued going to the gym, and I’m hoping that is helping, and I really praying that I am burning more calories than I’m eating, however, that would mean that I would have to burn 5 zillion calories in a one hour period at the gym.   Hey, maybe it’s possible..LOL

So, let’s end this on a positive note, so I fucked up.  I got to enjoy crap that I haven’t had for 6-8 weeks, and I have made progress by continuing to go to the gym.  I do feel good, and I can get back to this.  I will get back to this, and I am going to get back to this.  Why does it have to be so fucking hard.


Blog Challenge – Day 29

What Do You Think People Misunderstand Most About You?

This is another tough one, I may have to go with my age, and my kids, when I tell people I have a daughter who is almost 23, I surprise a lot of people.  I had her when I was really young, but I’d like to think that I still made a really good mom.  I tried my best, and well, she’s nothing like me – except for her looks, voice and sense of humour, and she finished university and is now working, so I don’t think I did too badly.

Blog Challenge – Day 28

What is Your Love Language?

What is a love language?  Ok, so I did an online test, this is coming from someone who hasn’t even dated in over a year, let alone been in a relationship; apparently my love language is physical touch.  Maybe I’m just craving some physical touch.  Typically, I’m not much for public displays of affection, however, I thought I would be more selfish right now, because I have this issue with trusting people and all, and most of the time in my mind, I’m thinking “don’t touch me”.

But there you have it.  Physical Touch.

Blog Challenge – Day 27

What is Your Favourite Part of Your Body and Why?

Ok, I’m going to have to go with my hair, if that counts as part of my body.  I love my hair, I love long hair, and, knock on wood, I haven’t had to dye my hair yet.  I still have my natural colour, I know it won’t last that much longer, but I’m happy I don’t have that extra added cost each month to keep up with covering grey.

If I actually have to pick a part of my body, then my next favourite body part would be my eyes, I like my eyes, their brown, and Asian, I have my dad’s eyes, and I get compliments – well, I used to get compliments about my eyes.

Blog Challenge – Day 26

What Popular Notion Do You Think The World Has Most Wrong?

I’ve thought a lot about this, and I think what the world has most wrong is discipline.  I do know that other places in the world discipline their kids better than they do in North America.  However, what I’m seeing a lot of these days are very self-entitled children who think that the world owes them something.  People now have better incomes and can provide more for their children, which is fine, not my concern, I would do anything for my kids.  But I believe in providing them with independence and a home where they can safely learn how to live in the real world.

Children who aren’t disciplined properly have behavioural issues, they are unable to socialise with the other children, they aren’t able to self-regulate themselves and they are unable to be compassionate to others, when they aren’t told no, and they are getting away with murder, then they grow up to be kids, teens and young adults that think that the world revolves around them.

Kids need rules, they need boundaries, and they need to be told no.  I don’t mean that we need to beat our children, but I do believe in spanking, I believe that spanking should only be for kids 5 and under.  By 5 they should already know most things, and they are also old enough to be told what they have done wrong.  Also, I believe that the spanking shouldn’t be there to hurt them, it should be to enforce your point and only used as a last resort.  For example, if your two year old comes running into your kitchen while you are cooking and they reach up to put their little fingers on one of the hot burners, I would smack their fingers.  I want them to know that if they touch it, it will be hot and it will hurt.  I would also reinforce that it is hot by saying it is hot, showing them it is hot (safely showing them), and telling them that they can’t touch the stove.  Another example, when my daughter was about 3, I started with counting, 1, 2, 3, I didn’t use a 2 and a half or a 2 and 3 quarters, I told her that if I got to 3 she would get a spank.  I only ever got to 3 that one time and she did get a spank.   The spank wasn’t to hurt her, it was to hurt her feelings make her understand that I asked her to stop and she needed to listen.  From that day on, if needed I would say 1 and she would normally stop.  But she knew there would be a consequence.  Most parents threaten with 1, 2, 3 but nothing comes of it and there isn’t a lesson learned.

Ok, so I’m getting a little off track, I think that we as a society have spoiled our children rotten, I see many whiny children that turned into self-centred pre-teens who have these helicopter parents that make sure their kids never fall, get hurt, are told no, or have a bruised ego.  Their self-esteem is to be bronzed with their baby shoes, and these are the kids that are going to be running our world.

We need to encourage our kids, teach them how to fly, be independent, we need to show them respect so that they learn how to offer respect, children learn what they live, and I’m not about to tell you I am the world’s best parent, because I’m not, I have my flaws, but I will not live in the same house with a child that whines when they want something, cries when they don’t get it, a child that continuously pushes my buttons and doesn’t understand the word no, a child that has no respect for himself, his family or anyone else.  I want to enable my children so that they are valuable to society, teach them they need to earn things, and show them that losing is ok, and that we need to try and keep trying sometimes to be great at whatever it is we want to be great at.

Blog Challenge – Day 25

Ok, does it still count?  I’m a little late, with a busy weekend…

If You Could Have Dinner With Anyone in History, Who Would It Be and What Would You Eat?

Another excellent question!  Let’s see, if it could be totally anyone, then most likely Jon Bon Jovi, I’d love to just be able to chat with him, but I bet for the first part I would be giggling, and stuttering and sputtering until I calmed down enough to hold a decent conversation.  I’d be happy eating at his restaurant and choosing something from his menu, maybe a seafood dish.

If the question is looking for someone from long ago in our history, then Leonardo Da Vinci, I would love to meet him in Italy and I think that we would have ourselves some authentic Italian cuisine, start with some antipasto and move on to some soup and pasta.