Blog Challenge – Day 28

What is Your Love Language?

What is a love language?  Ok, so I did an online test, this is coming from someone who hasn’t even dated in over a year, let alone been in a relationship; apparently my love language is physical touch.  Maybe I’m just craving some physical touch.  Typically, I’m not much for public displays of affection, however, I thought I would be more selfish right now, because I have this issue with trusting people and all, and most of the time in my mind, I’m thinking “don’t touch me”.

But there you have it.  Physical Touch.

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Blog Challenge – Day 27

What is Your Favourite Part of Your Body and Why?

Ok, I’m going to have to go with my hair, if that counts as part of my body.  I love my hair, I love long hair, and, knock on wood, I haven’t had to dye my hair yet.  I still have my natural colour, I know it won’t last that much longer, but I’m happy I don’t have that extra added cost each month to keep up with covering grey.

If I actually have to pick a part of my body, then my next favourite body part would be my eyes, I like my eyes, their brown, and Asian, I have my dad’s eyes, and I get compliments – well, I used to get compliments about my eyes.

Blog Challenge – Day 26

What Popular Notion Do You Think The World Has Most Wrong?

I’ve thought a lot about this, and I think what the world has most wrong is discipline.  I do know that other places in the world discipline their kids better than they do in North America.  However, what I’m seeing a lot of these days are very self-entitled children who think that the world owes them something.  People now have better incomes and can provide more for their children, which is fine, not my concern, I would do anything for my kids.  But I believe in providing them with independence and a home where they can safely learn how to live in the real world.

Children who aren’t disciplined properly have behavioural issues, they are unable to socialise with the other children, they aren’t able to self-regulate themselves and they are unable to be compassionate to others, when they aren’t told no, and they are getting away with murder, then they grow up to be kids, teens and young adults that think that the world revolves around them.

Kids need rules, they need boundaries, and they need to be told no.  I don’t mean that we need to beat our children, but I do believe in spanking, I believe that spanking should only be for kids 5 and under.  By 5 they should already know most things, and they are also old enough to be told what they have done wrong.  Also, I believe that the spanking shouldn’t be there to hurt them, it should be to enforce your point and only used as a last resort.  For example, if your two year old comes running into your kitchen while you are cooking and they reach up to put their little fingers on one of the hot burners, I would smack their fingers.  I want them to know that if they touch it, it will be hot and it will hurt.  I would also reinforce that it is hot by saying it is hot, showing them it is hot (safely showing them), and telling them that they can’t touch the stove.  Another example, when my daughter was about 3, I started with counting, 1, 2, 3, I didn’t use a 2 and a half or a 2 and 3 quarters, I told her that if I got to 3 she would get a spank.  I only ever got to 3 that one time and she did get a spank.   The spank wasn’t to hurt her, it was to hurt her feelings make her understand that I asked her to stop and she needed to listen.  From that day on, if needed I would say 1 and she would normally stop.  But she knew there would be a consequence.  Most parents threaten with 1, 2, 3 but nothing comes of it and there isn’t a lesson learned.

Ok, so I’m getting a little off track, I think that we as a society have spoiled our children rotten, I see many whiny children that turned into self-centred pre-teens who have these helicopter parents that make sure their kids never fall, get hurt, are told no, or have a bruised ego.  Their self-esteem is to be bronzed with their baby shoes, and these are the kids that are going to be running our world.

We need to encourage our kids, teach them how to fly, be independent, we need to show them respect so that they learn how to offer respect, children learn what they live, and I’m not about to tell you I am the world’s best parent, because I’m not, I have my flaws, but I will not live in the same house with a child that whines when they want something, cries when they don’t get it, a child that continuously pushes my buttons and doesn’t understand the word no, a child that has no respect for himself, his family or anyone else.  I want to enable my children so that they are valuable to society, teach them they need to earn things, and show them that losing is ok, and that we need to try and keep trying sometimes to be great at whatever it is we want to be great at.

Blog Challenge – Day 25

Ok, does it still count?  I’m a little late, with a busy weekend…

If You Could Have Dinner With Anyone in History, Who Would It Be and What Would You Eat?

Another excellent question!  Let’s see, if it could be totally anyone, then most likely Jon Bon Jovi, I’d love to just be able to chat with him, but I bet for the first part I would be giggling, and stuttering and sputtering until I calmed down enough to hold a decent conversation.  I’d be happy eating at his restaurant and choosing something from his menu, maybe a seafood dish.

If the question is looking for someone from long ago in our history, then Leonardo Da Vinci, I would love to meet him in Italy and I think that we would have ourselves some authentic Italian cuisine, start with some antipasto and move on to some soup and pasta.

Blog Challenge – Day 22

Where Do You See Yourself In 5 Years?  10 Years? 15 Years?

In five years, I would like to be making more money; the plan by then is to have enough to buy one of the houses closer to the lake.  This keeps Devin in the same school district, but puts me in a nicer house.  At that point, Jessica should be moved out, but if she still needs to stay from time to time, there will still be room for her.  I would also like to be debt free at this time.  And of course, I want to be thin.  I want to be in really good shape, and I want to keep up going to the gym.

In 10 years, I’d like to continue making good money, Devin would be 19 in 10 years, wow, that in itself is hard to imagine.  I’d like to be able to travel more; I’ll still be working and hopefully still be making great money.  I may have a significant other in my life at that point.  I don’t think that I will ever re-marry, but I may want to have someone in my life by then.

In 15 years, I might start to downsize, possibly leave Pickering and find a smaller town to retire in.  The kids will be older and won’t need me as much, but I still might want a place where they can come and stay with me for special occasions, or maybe we travel to the Caribbean together more often.  I’d like to have grandkids by then and if I do, I might just stay closer, 15 years is really hard to foresee.

Blog Challenge – Day 15

If You Were an Animal, What Would You Be and Why?

If I were an animal, I would be a cat.  I’d love to be a cat in my home, living with people that love me and if I don’t want any attention I can go somewhere to hide and sleep.

Also, my astrological sign is Leo, and my Chinese astrological sign is Tiger, so being a cat will fit nicely for me.  I think I already have some of cats’ tendencies anyway, I enjoy my sleep, I can be a little selfish, and I love my mane.

Blog Challenge – Day 13

Describe 5 Weaknesses You Have

  1. Willpower – I really have none, if I want something I have to have it, the urge gets really strong and over powers any sane thoughts of going without it.
  2. Upper Body Strength – I have none. I am actually a weakling, and have trouble lifting anything.
  3. Sports – I am not good with sports of any kind – even at the gym, I’m not very coordinated.
  4. I’m not the greatest team player, I prefer to do things on my own without help, because other people ruin things.
  5. My self-esteem – I’m not sure if this is a weakness, but I am very hard on myself, too hard on myself most of the time, I would like to be kinder to me, but I just can’t seem to do that. I am disappointed in me more often than not.